Many Autistic adults want romantic relationships but often find them hard to start or maintain. This can be due to limited opportunities to meet people, social anxiety and communication differences. Negative stereotypes and discrimination also make things harder.
Every swipe tells a story
A new study from the Aspect Research Centre for Autism Practice (ARCAP) explored how Autistic adults use dating apps and what makes those experiences positive or challenging.
The research involved an international sample of just over 100 Autistic adults aged 18–69.
The opportunities
Many study respondents said dating apps helped them connect and communicate in ways that felt more comfortable. Typing instead of talking, having time to think about responses, and setting their own pace made dating less stressful.
The study found:
83%
met someone in person through a dating app
49%
formed long-term relationships
41%
had short-term relationships
43%
had casual connections or hook-ups
The challenges
But there were also challenges. Many found using apps emotionally draining and described them as “like a part-time job.” Decisions about whether to disclose being Autistic were complex; while openness could help find compatible partners, it also risked rejection or stigma.
Safety was another big concern. Many participants reported harassment and pressure, especially women and LGBTQIA+ users.
