For many mums, Mother’s Day is a chance to enjoy a little pampering and recognition for all they do for their families. But while flowers, chocolates and well-deserved sleep-ins may be a once-a-year treat, there is a gift that can last all year round: self-compassion.
What is self-compassion and how can it help parents of Autistic children?
Self-compassion is the act of being warm and understanding towards ourselves. There is growing evidence that self-compassion is important for our mental health, particularly when we suffer, fail or feel inadequate.
“We know parents are time poor so we wanted to offer a short workshop focused on simple, practical strategies that can be used in everyday moments, without adding extra pressure to already busy lives," explains Dr Ru Ying Cai, Research Fellow at the Aspect Research Centre for Autism Practice (ARCAP).
In partnership with leading compassion researcher, Associate Professor James Kirby from the University of Queensland, ARCAP piloted the workshop with 45 parents of Autistic children, introducing techniques such as:
- slowing down breathing during stressful moments
- shifting to a more supportive internal voice
- finding small “micro-moments” of calm throughout the day.
These are practical tools that can be used while making a cup of tea, waiting in the car, or navigating a challenging moment with a child.
Parents who completed the workshop reported:
- improved wellbeing
- reduced depressive symptoms
- greater self-reassurance and less self-criticism.
How do I get started with self-compassion?
While mothers are often the primary caregivers for Autistic children and can carry a significant mental and emotional load, self-compassion skills can help all parents.
This Mother’s Day, Aspect is encouraging parents to extend the same understanding and care to themselves that they show their children every day.
Even small shifts, like pausing, softening self-talk, or taking a moment to reset, can make a meaningful difference over time.
